Category: Relationships

As it appeared in the Botswana Sunday Standard July 28, 2013, edition, Systemic Thinking Column  When a couple are in conflict, often times we are expecting that our partner to think, act and be like ourselves and meet our needs in the same way we think we should meet theirs.  That’s where we can get … Continue reading Newspaper Column Article 22: The Viralness of HIV/AIDs – Part IX: Caring Love for Her. Trusting Love for Him

As it appeared in the Botswana Sunday Standard July 21, 2013, edition, Systemic Thinking Column  When women talk, it means it is a good sign!  They are actually de-stressing. Some of the male readers of the column shared they were surprised from the previous week’s column that the act of making social contact (such as … Continue reading Newspaper Column Article 21: The Viralness of HIV/AIDs – Part VIII: To de-stress, “Men Go to Their Cave, Women Talk”

As it appeared in the Botswana Sunday Standard on June 9, 2013, Systemic Thinking Column “She’s not my type” or “He is not my type” Yet, that’s exactly what it takes a couple to come together.  As opposite genders, we do not meet in our similarities.  But in our differences.  Emotionally. When a couple are … Continue reading Newspaper Column Article #20: The Viralness of HIV/AIDs – Part VII: Men and women in love meet in our differences – not similarities

As it appeared in the Botswana Sunday Standard on June 30, 2013, The Systemic Thinking Column The column is currently exploring the link between the states of emotional fidelity between couples and HIV/AIDS prevalence rates that exist as a nation. It is difficult to imagine that something that prevails by as much as at a … Continue reading The Viralness of HIV/AIDs – Part VI: The Twelve Kinds of Love

As it appeared in the Botswana Sunday Standard on June 9, 2013, Systemic Thinking Column In the previous segment of this column, we concluded it was not as easy for someone to be sexually fidel till one learns to build and enjoy “emotional fidelity” with one’s partner. It can be easy to miss this point. … Continue reading Newspaper Column Article #18: The Viralness of HIV/AIDs – Part V: His emotional needs. Her emotional needs.

As it appeared in the Botswana Sunday Standard on May 26, 2013 Nevertheless, a question that has crossed millions of minds and tons of conversations around the globe.  In sports clubs, in tea-gardens, at pubs, at market places and at bus-stations.  Between girlfriends and among boys and men.  Regardless of gender. And we have thrashed … Continue reading Newspaper Column #16: The Viralness of HIV/AIDs – Part III: What causes fidelity? Not infidelity.

As it appeared in the Sunday Standard, Botswana May 19, 2013, edition. From a systemic perspective, the causality of HIV/AIDs as a phenomenon will be no different from that of one country to another!  Be it that it is happening in India or Europe or China or here in Botswana, South Africa or Namibia.  Despite … Continue reading Newspaper Column #15: The Viralness of HIV/AIDs – Part II: The Difference Between Working Hard and Working Smart.